A Wedding Agenda – Great Tool For an Organized Rehearsal

The wedding is tomorrow, and everything must go perfectly. Tonight is the wedding rehearsal. Everyone is excited, anticipating the grand event. Because of the wedding buzz, reunion with friends and relatives, detail overload, and fatigue, some of the information imparted tonight will be lost amid the hubbub. To ensure that all wedding participants have a backup source to provide vital information that may not be absorbed during the rehearsal, I always provide to wedding participants an agenda of the wedding ceremony that can be used as a reference should any participant need a refresher before the event.

Below is an example of a wedding procedure handout. This template gives you a good idea of what needs to be included and can be tailored to meet your unique needs. This procedure is for a wedding beginning at 6:00 P.M.

Wedding Procedures for Smith-Jones Wedding

  • 5:00 P.M–Ushers/groomsmen should be in the foyer to seat guests. Do not seat anyone until all members of the wedding party have left the sanctuary and all pictures have been made. Preferably, no one will be seated prior to one hour before the service.
  • 5:00 P.M.–Groom, minister, and best man should be situated in the area from which they will come into the sanctuary when the ceremony begins.
  • 5:30 P.M.–Prelude of musical selections begin while guests are seated.
  • 5:45 P.M.–Selected usher will seat paternal grandparents.
  • 5:47 P.M.–Selected usher will seat maternal grandparents
  • 6:00 P.M.–Vocalist will sing “First song.”
  • 6:05 P.M.–Mothers are seated as “Song” is played. (Selected usher will escort groom’s mother to her assigned place on the right side of the aisle, father will follow closely behind. When this usher returns to the foyer, selected usher will escort the bride’s mother to her assigned place on the left side of the aisle.) At this point, absolutely no other guests will be seated.
  • 6:10 P.M.–Vocalist will sing “Song.”
  • 6:15 P.M and beyond.–Musicians will begin to play “Song.” Minister, Groom, and Best Man will enter the sanctuary from their waiting area and take their places at the front of the church. When they are in place, the processional will begin–Usher #1 will enter the sanctuary and take his place at the front. When Usher #1 is halfway down the aisle, Usher #2 will enter and take his place at the front. Usher #3 will enter when #2 is halfway down the aisle; Usher #4 will follow suit. When Usher #4 is halfway down the aisle, Bridesmaid #1 will enter the sanctuary and this procedure will continue until all attendants are in place–ending with the maid of honor. (Could be flower girl if you have one in the wedding.)
  • When the wedding party members are in place, the musician will end “Processional Song.”
  • The “Bridal Song” will begin and the bride will enter the sanctuary escorted by her father. They will proceed down the aisle and take their places at the front.
  • At this point, the minister will take over and conduct the ceremony which will include the invocation, greeting, presentation of the brids, and wedding message.
  • When the wedding message is concluded, vocalist will sing “Song.”
  • After the song, the minister will proceed with the exchange of vows and exchange of rings.
  • After the exchange of the the rings, the minister will ask everyone to join in prayer while vocalist sings “Prayer Song.”
  • After the “Prayer Song” the minister will present the couple to the audience.
  • 6:55 P.M.–The Recessional (“Song”) will begin and the bride and groom will exit the ceremony, followed by the Maid of Honor and Best Man, Usher #1 and Bridesmaid #1, Usher #2 and Bridesmaid #2, and Usher #3 and Bridesmaid # 3.
  • Father of the bride will escort mother of the bride from the sanctuary after Usher and Bridesmaid #3.
  • Father of groom will escort mother of the groom from the sanctuary after the father and mother of the bride.
  • Grandmother of the bride will be escorted from the sanctuary by the grandfather of the bride.
  • Grandmother of the groom will be escorted from the sanctuary by the grandfather of the groom
  • When all wedding party participants have exited, the minister will invites all guests to stay for the reception immediately following the ceremony.

Because every wedding is unique, the wedding procedure I have provided will not address all aspects of your ceremony; however, it gives you a good idea of what sort of information should be provided. The more information you can provide to those involved in making your wedding perfect, the better. In addition to the wedding party, the minister, musicians, and photographers will certainly appreciate knowing all the details. It also helps the wedding director to stay focused since there will be many distractions in the moments leading up to the grand event.

Role Play For The Little Woman

Too old to be a flower girl, too young to be a bridesmaid- this is perhaps the most appropriate definition of a junior bridesmaid. This teen member has some in-between roles to play in the bridal party. Commonly observed, a junior bridesmaid is generally chosen from the family- niece, cousin, sister, or a family friend. However, selection of this young participant completely depends on the discretion of the bride.

The duties and responsibilities of a junior bridesmaid don’t really vary to a great extent from that of a flower girl.

  • The junior bridesmaid has to purchase her dress (generally purchased by her parents). Often, the bride decides her dress or even asks for suggestions from her parents. The motive, however, is to match the dress of the junior bridesmaid to that of the party theme and the bride’s wedding gown.
  • A junior bridesmaid is expected to attend the rehearsals prior to the D-day. Her parents can also participate in the rehearsal dinners if she is to attend.
  • A junior bridesmaid needs to be a part of the wedding processional. She may be given an escort an extra young man is present in the bridal party.
  • A junior bridesmaid is expected to remain with the bridal party throughout unlike the little flower girls. The latter can be seated with their parents if the ceremony takes more time to finish.
  • As regards the receiving line at the wedding reception, participation of the junior bridesmaid will be ensured in case she is an immediate family member.
  • It’s the duty of the junior bridesmaid to hand out rice bags, bubbles, bird seed, or any other item that would be used during the bridal couple’s departure.
  • Commonly, a junior bridesmaid is involved in the planning and hosting of a bridal shower. However, her participation in is not quite welcome in the final event.
  • Participation of this young member in a bachelorette party depends on the nature of the party. The bride can decide whether it would be appropriate for her to attend.

Notwithstanding the duties, the attire and accessories of a junior bridesmaid are equally important. While her dress can be similar to the bride’s, its styling should be perfect. Junior bridesmaid dresses should always be modest- no low-cut necks or slits up the side are allowed. Her footwear is often similar to that of flower girl shoes; low heels are preferable unless the junior bridesmaid is an older teen. When confused, you can also gather a lot of information on junior bridesmaid dresses online. Being an important part of the processional, this young participant should come out looking stunning as all!

Tips For Planning a Girl’s Night Out

What is life when there is not fun in it? Nobody enjoys life when all they do is sit in their house and watch television all day long. There is more to life I always say. There is fun, adventure, travel and lots of laughter. The bright and beautiful world out there needs somebody to explore it to the fullest and who better than a bunch of girls with lots in common that does not just stop at making tea and gossips.

A true girls’ night out should not be anything regular. It should go beyond chatting and ogling after stunning guys in fitted jeans and shiny hair. It goes beyond how cute someone’s lips are or how sexy a guy looks from the rear.
A true girls’ night out should be planned on what interests each girl in the group and they all can work together to fit all their interests into one night without overdoing it.

I will provide you with two simple tips that I know.

The first of the two tips is to decide on a theme to go with. It is very fun to include a theme and go with it. A theme makes everything fall into place and everybody knows what and what not to bring in. the group should decide on a theme that fits everyone and then individual person should include an activity that falls under the theme without being too much.

A costume party could be fun with a mean twist that makes it unique. It should be far from being a regular dressing up routine. The girls’ should be creative and go for something extra-ordinary like maybe twenty years before kind of thing. This is when all the girls shave their age by twenty years. They put on what makes hot and sizzling twenty years ago and pick a favorite spot where they used to hang out the most back then. What will make it more interesting are the known faces that might still be around which now adds to the fun.

The bottom-line of this is to go crazy while having fun. Some might feel funny and awkward but that is the point. Go wild, go crazy just have fun for goodness sake.

The second tip is to stick to the plan. I know that most girls’ night out end up with each girl going home at different times. That is not so good in my own book of rules. You should stick together unless the deal is to go home separately. It is much more fun to escort each person home. No girl; should go with the handsome dude without asking the others first and what they say should go. Have fun with the guys at the rendezvous but do not leave with any. It is a girls’ night out after all and not a guy-pick-a-girl night out.

These tips should make up for all other ones. The decision is to make it work and if possible make it a regular night adventure for best friends.

Wedding Day Schedule – Tips on the Running Order of Your Ceremony and Reception

With a lot of different activities taking place on your wedding day it’s a good idea to have a schedule prepared listing the order of events as you would like them to occur. Doing so will ensure that the wedding day celebrations will progress as planned. Although a specific activity can be omitted or the order of occurrence altered, traditionally the wedding day schedule is as follows.

The Ceremony

  • Prior to the processional, ushers will seat the arriving guests. Tradition dictates that the groom’s side will sit to the right (when entering from the rear of the ceremonial area) and the bride’s to the left. The groomsmen typically escort the parents to their seats, which make up the front row. With the parents being seated, this most often indicates that the ceremony is about to begin.
  • The groom characteristically will enter from the front side of the ceremony area where he is to receive his bride and remain there when the processional begins. His groomsmen will enter with him unless it was planned that they escort the bridesmaids down the bride’s aisle.
  • Next, the bridesmaids proceed down the aisle prior to the bride, followed by the ring bearer and flower girl. Once the entire bridal party reaches their destination, the bride makes her grand entrance. The bride is traditionally escorted by her father or, alternatively, by a significant family member.
  • Once the pronouncement as husband and wife is made, the couple’s kiss initiates the recessional, which designates the end of the ceremony. This is when the bride and groom make their travel back down the aisle as newlyweds. They are followed by the bridal party who exit in the same order of their entrance.

The Reception

  • On arrival, the usher’s duties are to instruct guests on where to park and direct them into the reception hall. Guests will usually mingle while having cocktails and appetizers during the time the formal photographs are being taken at the ceremony venue.
  • When the bride and groom arrive to the reception site after the formal photography session is completed, the DJ will announce their names as they enter the room and proceed to the head table. Introductions are made for each individual member of the bridal party, normally ending with the parents.
  • It is optional to have champagne toasts and speeches at this point, but dinner customarily will come next. Once dinner is complete, champagne toasts and speeches follow. Either the father of the bride or the best man will begin the process. Optionally, the other bridal party members will speak before the opportunity is opened to the guests. The groom, then the bride, will usually give the concluding speech.
  • The cake cut will follow the toasting. The bouquet toss, garter removal, the garter toss and the first dance take place respectively.
  • Once the bride and groom’s first dance completes, the other first dances commence including the father and daughter and mother and son dances. Once the special dances are brought to a close, the bridal party is usually asked to join in. The money dance will come next if it is part of the plan.
  • With the conclusion of the traditional reception dances, the major events of the night are basically complete. At this point, the DJ will pump up the volume and the guests will participate on the dance floor. With the celebration underway, a final tip to remember is that it’s traditional for the newlyweds to be the first to leave the reception, so if it’s going to be a long one, you may want to let the guests know.

A wedding day schedule is nothing complex but is a nifty thing to have on hand to keep your ceremony and reception running smoothly. It’s a long, arduous procedure to plan a wedding, and the thrill of your wedding day is the big payoff, so you certainly don’t want any mishaps with the sequence of wedding day events. Preparing the day’s schedule provides assurance that your wedding day festivities will take place as you planned.